Human Being

Mistakes. I’ve had my fair share. You probably have yours too. Most times we “grow” out of all of this and “get over” them. But, do we really?

As much as we try avoiding it, we have a lot that haunts us, everyday. The worthlessness we felt when our friends decided we were not in sync anymore. The loneliness we feel when we want to be our authentic selves in a world controlled by trends. The things we have done, said and thought when we never meant to. They bring havoc, they bring terror. They invite Questions. Questions that will open up our minds and need us to reevaluate the type of people we truly are. Are we monsters? Do we intentionally create monsters by the way we interact with them?

There is that one person you had to let go of. The two of you weren’t working. You slipped up and it meant they had to go. The opposite can be true. You might think you did something tragic. You think you will do it again. You think you are a bad person. You truly aren’t. That mistake? It is meant to show you who you can be. It is never meant to make you who you are. You got over it, but you grip it everyday. Let go. The friendship will come. Another job will surface. They cancelled you on the internet but you get way too much love in reality from the ones who matter. Grow. Your puzzle is never complete.

We are allowed to redefine, redirect and reconstruct our lives. As communities we ought to take people as who they choose to be even after they wronged us. They can change. We are not words. If we were, then all of us would be bound to stick to one use and single definitions. We are human.

Human. We are dangerous, yet safe. We are firm, yet flexible. We lie, yet we have the truth in us. We were made perfectly yet we are faulty everyday. Beyond it all, we are human, and after the word, there is a blank space, just so we define what it means to each of us.

There should be a way for us to hug ourselves. For all the time we’ve lost because we were not in the right mind. For all the times we failed to forgive ourselves. For all the mistakes we’ve made permanent scars.

From Wawie:

“We are human beings”

being

/ˈbiːɪŋ/

noun

present participle of be

be

/biː/

verb

1. exist

2. occur/take place

We are being. We are not human be or human beens. We are being. Each and every time we are becoming something else and we keep evolving. Being. We have not rehearsed and neither are we aware of our exact roles so we just keep it moving. That should be reason enough to forgive ourselves and those we find in our spaces.

The other day on X(Twitter), I read something that went a little like:

The same way you learn how to read, write, ride a bike or even walk or swim is the same way your parents are figuring out parenting. They have never raised a “you” before and they are figuring it out the same way you are. Forgive them. Let go of the little things. The little mistakes you hold on to. Let go. Allow everyone around you to grow and figure things out the same way you are.

We are one yet so much makes us different. We might experience the same things differently, but we have a part to play. The allowing of each of us to understand that we are being, we have not been and aren’t going to be. We are being.